8 things to not say to breastfeeding moms

Friends, family, and sometimes even strangers will offer their opinion to nursing moms, whether it’s asked for or not.  It’s meant to be helpful, but sometimes it can sound more like a criticism. We know people can be well-meaning, but it doesn’t take the sting away from hurtful words.

“It’s especially hurtful when people say mean things when you are doing something good, like breastfeeding,” says Michele Zipp in an Huffington Post article. She shares a few things never to say to a breastfeeding mother.

“You're still breastfeeding?”

“When people say this with a tone of shock and disgust, it's hurtful,” says Zipp. Nursing moms make a decision based on what is best for her and her baby, not what society thinks.

“Breastfeeding is going to ruin your boobs.”

Breastfeeding has little to do with the status of your breasts after pregnancy. Changes in your breasts are more closely related to your pregnancy and the amount of fatty tissue in your body. Even if a woman chooses not to breastfeed, her breasts will stretch and possibly appear droopy as a result of the pregnancy.

“I just don't get why anyone would breastfeed a toddler.”

“When this is said to a new mother, it could make her feel uncomfortable because she may very well plan on breastfeeding into toddlerhood,” says Zipp. Breastmilk offers a host of health and developmental benefits for as long as they nurse. It’s up to the mother to decide when to stop.

“You could always just give formula.”

“This is like saying to a happy newlywed that instead of choosing John to be her husband, she could always get a divorce and choose Rick,” says Zipp. Breastmilk is always available and ready to feed the baby whenever they are hungry.

“That's obscene! Can't you go to the bathroom to do that?”

Breastfeeding is natural and no woman should be confined to a bedroom or bathroom to feed her baby. In fact, most states have laws that allow mom to nurse when appropriate.

“Your breasts should belong to your husband, not your baby.”

“Apparently these people never heard of sharing,” says Zipp.

“Oh the baby is weaning? Thank goodness! You must be so happy to not have to do that anymore!”

Breastfeeding is a bonding experience and the end of that can be sad for some moms.

“Your sex life won't exist if you breastfeed because your baby will always be attached to you.”

Zipp says, “I think some breastfeeding moms just have to get more creative when it comes to sex. Heck don't all new parents?” Breastfeeding can be challenging and not many people realize how sensitive the topic is when things don’t go as planned. It requires a strong mindset, cooperating body and lifestyle, and a strong support system to stick with breastfeeding.